Your job isn't to fix his erection. It's to keep the penis from running the whole relationship.

After menopause, desire, arousal and lubrication stop lining up the way we've been taught they should. Dryness doesn't prove you've lost interest, wetness doesn't prove you want it, and a slower, changed sexual response isn't the same thing as the end of your sexuality. Here's what's really going on, and…

You'll reinvent your career, your haircut, your whole wellness routine. The bedroom stays locked at 1998. But your erotic self was never one fixed thing, and midlife is a really good time to meet the others.

You don't have to defeat your shame to talk dirty. You just have to get past it by one honest inch, say one true thing, and let your body collect the evidence that it lived. Here's how to lower the bar until it's almost rude.

Wanting sex at different volumes doesn't mean your relationship is broken, or that either of you is the problem. Desire discrepancy is one of the most ordinary things couples bring to my door, and it's far more workable than it feels at midnight.

The playful girlfriend you think you've lost isn't gone, she's just hiding in the attic. Here's why one stupid card game can do what a hundred earnest "we need to talk" conversations never could.

Not too tight, not a lost cause, just a pelvic floor guarding you far too well. Here's how it learns to let go.

The physical signs your body is releasing trauma – shaking, tears, heat, yawning – aren't your body breaking. It's old survival energy finally thawing out.

Not a monster in your muscle – just a nervous system stuck on guard. Here's what "stored" trauma really means.

The Hidden Power of Using Fantasies for Self-DiscoveryThe Hidden Power of Using Fantasies for Self-Discovery Imagine if exploring your most private dreams could be the key to unlocking your fullest potential and truest self. Lately I’ve been taking a deep dive into fantasy and I’ve learned something fascinating. Your fantasies…